I have not gotten my children baptized yet and have been putting it off trying to find godparents. The truth is that we don’t have anyone we could choose. We live far from relatives ( can relatives be godparents anyway?) and the only friend I could consider is single and not catholic. Are they still necessary these days? I mean how many instances are there of god parents actually taking over for the parents when needed to? I appreciate your info. Thanks in advance.
Godparents are not just people who fulfill the role outlined by the Church, but should be a living example of the authentic Catholic faith that you, the parents, are teaching your children in your everyday lives.
A couple of posts have gone into the exact requirements, so I won’t belabor those points, but according to Canon law, you need {on paper} one godparent who meets the spiritual requirements to care for your child and *help* you raise your child with the Faith.
Ideally, you should have two godparents, one male and one female {as a reflection of God’s design for the family}, but sometimes it’s difficult to find two practicing Catholics who can offer your child what he/she needs spiritually. In those cases, you can ask a non-Catholic Christian to be a Christian witness to the baptism in addition to your Catholic godparent. They are agreeing to help {not hinder} your ability to raise the children with the Faith.
If you have relatives out of town/state, you can also ask local parishioners to be ‘proxy-stand ins’ for your godparents, which means they will stand in and validate that you have godparents who could not be present for the Sacrament.
Above all, I would call your local parish and see what their process. Each diocese has their own set of "rules" for baptism. I wouldn’t delay baptism if at all possible. The Sacrament of Baptism is *far* more important than waiting around on godparents.
Are you registered with your parish? Are you active? Get involved and make friends and ask them to be godparents. Don’t be shy!